A Unique Approach
I offer a unique approach to couples counseling and relationship coaching.
I have combined effective, results-oriented models from several masters of relationship therapy specifically rooted in the extensive relationship research of John Gottman, PhD. I have trained at the advanced levels with Drs. John and Julie Gottman of the Gottman Institute. I also blend in training I have had in Adlerian Couples Counseling and Imago Relationship Therapy.
Couples Counseling Approaches
The Adlerian and Imago approach to couples counseling fit ideally with the research-based methods of Drs. John and Julie Gottman.
The Gottman Method
After 30 years of research with over 3000 couples, Drs. John and Julie Gottman developed an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory. Having trained with the Gottmans at an advanced level, my work with couples is built on this foundation. The goals of Gottman Method for couples counseling are to mitigate conflicting verbal communication, increase emotional and physical intimacy, grow a deep sense of respect, dissolve barriers that keep couples feeling stuck in conflicting situations, and cultivate a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the the relationship.
Adlerian Couples Counseling
Having trained with Dr. Frank Main, a master Adlerian psychologist, I also bring in an Adlerian approach to couples counseling. Using Adlerian theory we can identify what drives and motivates your behaviors in relationship and with the Gottman methods we are able to identify the very specific ways couples are interacting (or not interacting) which may be causing damage to the relationship so we can turn that around.
Developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix, Imago theory helps couples become more aware of one another’s perspectives with deep empathy and it provides a way for couples to learn how their problems arise. By activating compassion through deep and active listening skills, couples are able to achieve a sense of connection, stability and harmony within the relationship.With Imago techniques we are able to realize a whole new way of relating and communicating that is adaptive and effective.
I see consistently positive outcome and results from my unique counseling programs with couples.
In order for couples to see the results they desire from relationship counseling, I have a specialized system for ensuring commitment to the therapy process prior to entering into therapy.
While clients always maintain autonomy and are free to leave counseling at any time, the Commitment Contract I provide establishes a structure and an effective level of commitment that enables the clients and I together to achieve the goals of relationship therapy.
The Relationship Repair & Remedy Program
When the waters of the relationship are troubled, whether there has been a betrayal or a pattern of high conflict, together we can identify where the strengths and the weakenesses are in the relationship and then move into this program which consists of a commitment to 6 sessions to be conducted over a 12 week period. During each session we will work together to identify the patterns of behavior that are damaging the relationship and practice antidotes for these behaviors. Couples will experience meaningful opportunity to explore feelings, desires and needs in the warmth and safety of my office and this program. Between sessions, couples have “homework” that will help repair and re-mediate prior damage and begin a new way of relating and connecting. Some couples choose to extend these counseling additional sessions after completing the 6 session program.
A healthy marriage allows for change and growth.
This is a specialized program provide that consists of four 90 minute sessions over 4 weeks in which together we explore a bank of important questions that really need to be visited before making the life-long commitment to marriage. Through the process of exploring these questions, I assist couples in learning a few tricks and tools that will bolster their connection from the beginning and help them navigate conflict when it arises. Fun and enriching “homework” is assigned for couples to complete between sessions.
Relationship Enrichment Coaching Program
This program is for couples who have a solid relationship but may have hit a few bumps in the road or simply want to deepen, enrich or spice up their relationship. I offer this program as a series of four 90 minute sessions over an 6 week period. During this program I will explore new ways of communicating, ways to spice up the fun of being in a relationship and discover tools for deepening and enriching the experience of the relationship.
I provide a space for couples that is compassionate and non–judging, allowing couples to express and explore the patterns within the relationship with an aim at improving and enriching future experience. The goal for all couples counseling whether entering a marriage, strengthening a marriage, or ending a marriage, is to build on respect for Self and Other as well as honoring the relationship itself in whatever stage it is in. Greater clarity, quality of communication, and vision for the relationship are the focal points.
Paying for Couples Counseling and Relationship Coaching
I believe that making a monetary investment is a representation of commitment to the healing and growth of your relaitonship.
I provide an initial phone consultation with both of you together on a conference call so that each can feel comfortable with your therapist. This initial phone consultation is at no fee because we believe ensuring fit for all parties is very important. This consultation over the phone is typically 15-20 minutes.
A Commitment Contract will be emailed to both of you along with other new client electronic “paperwork” for you to review. The Commitment Contract enables you as a couple to make a promise to one another, yourselves and your therapist that you will attend 6 sessions within 12 weeks’ time with payment for the sessions in full at a rate that is discounted from our standard session rate. If at any time during that 12 week phase either party wishes to discontinue counseling before the 6 sessions are completed, I have a system and agreement in place to reimburse parties the balance of unpaid sessions minus the sessions already utilized at the full session rate.
I do accept credit cards and I do provide statements for your counseling coded for your insurance company in the case you wish to submit for out of network services.
If you would like to schedule a brief phone consultation please either call my office directly at 404-455-5805 or fill out our contact form and be sure to include your telephone number. I will be in touch within 24 hours if you are calling during the business week.