A Unique Approach to Helping Couples. . .
I have combined effective, results-oriented models from several masters of relationship therapy specifically rooted in the extensive relationship research of John Gottman, PhD. I have trained at the advanced levels with Drs. John and Julie Gottman of the Gottman Institute. I also blend in my training in Adlerian Couples Counseling and Imago Relationship Therapy.
In Spring of 2021 I will be offering 3 day couples marathon counseling retreats in which couples travel to the beautiful mountains of North Georgia, stay in a private mountain cabin and attend 3 days of assessment and therapy services.
Couples Counseling Approaches
I provide a mixture of several professional theoretical and practical approaches to couples counseling.
The Gottman Method
After 30 years of research with over 3000 couples, Drs. John and Julie Gottman developed an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory. Having trained with the Gottmans at an advanced level, my work with couples is built on this foundation. The goals of Gottman Method for couples counseling are to mitigate conflicting verbal communication, increase emotional and physical intimacy, grow a deep sense of respect, dissolve barriers that keep couples feeling stuck in conflicting situations, and cultivate a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the the relationship.
Adlerian Couples Counseling
Using Adlerian theory we are able to identify what drives and motivates behaviors in relationship, understanding that all humans need to feel a sense of belonging and encouragement within relationships. When combined with the Gottman method, I am able to identify the very specific ways couples are interacting (or not interacting) which may be causing damage to the relationship. This knowledge helps to bring positive change within the relationship.
Developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix, Imago theory helps couples become more aware of one another’s perspectives with deep empathy providing a way for couples to learn how their problems arise. By activating compassion through deep and active listening skills, couples are able to achieve a sense of connection, stability and harmony within the relationship.With Imago techniques we are able to realize a whole new way of relating and communicating that is adaptive and effective.
I see consistently positive outcome and results from my unique counseling programs with couples.
In order for couples to see the results they desire from relationship counseling, I have a specialized system for ensuring commitment to the therapy process prior to entering into therapy.
While clients always maintain autonomy and are free to leave counseling at any time, the Commitment Contract I provide establishes a structure and an effective level of commitment that enables the clients and I together to achieve the goals of relationship therapy.
The Relationship Repair & Remedy Program
When the waters of the relationship are troubled, whether there has been a betrayal or a pattern of conflict, together we can identify where the strengths and the weaknesses are in the relationship. After a thorough assessment, in each counseling session we will work together to identify the patterns of behavior that are damaging the relationship and we will practice antidotes for these behaviors. Couples experience meaningful opportunity to explore feelings, desires and needs in the warmth, acceptance and emotional safety of this program. Between sessions, couples have “homework” that will help repair and re-mediate prior damage and begin a new way of relating and connecting.
A healthy marriage allows for change and growth.
This is a specialized program in which together we explore a bank of important questions that really need to be visited before making the life-long commitment to marriage. Through the process of exploring these questions, I assist couples in learning a few tricks and tools that will bolster their connection from the beginning and help them navigate conflict when it arises. Fun and enriching “homework” is assigned for couples to complete between sessions.
Relationship Enrichment Coaching Program
This program is for couples who have a solid relationship but may have hit a few bumps in the road or simply want to deepen, enrich or spice up their relationship. During this program I will explore new ways of communicating, ways to spice up the fun of being in a relationship and discover tools for deepening and enriching the experience of the relationship.
I provide a space for couples that is compassionate and non–judging, allowing couples to express and explore the patterns within the relationship with an aim at improving and enriching future experience. The goal for all couples counseling whether entering a marriage, strengthening a marriage, or ending a marriage, is to build on respect for Self and Other as well as honoring the relationship itself in whatever stage it is in. Greater clarity, quality of communication, and vision for the relationship are the focal points.
Your Commitment and Investment
Making a commitment of your time and money to couples counseling is an investment in your life and relationship.
I provide a no cost initial phone or video conference consultation with both of you together on a conference call so that each can feel comfortable with me as your therapist. This initial phone consultation is at no fee because we believe ensuring fit for all parties is very important. This consultation over the phone is typically 15-20 minutes.
A Commitment Contract will be emailed to both of you along with other new client electronic “paperwork” for you to review. The Commitment Contract enables you as a couple to make a promise to one another, yourselves and your therapist that you will attend your counseling assessment and therapy sessions and will be making one payment in full for your chosen program.
3 Day Marathon Couples Counseling Retreats
Marathon Couples Counseling is an effective alternative to traditional couples counseling . It’s condensed and highly focused time you to address specific issues and help your relationship to grow and heal. Couples that participate in Marathon Couples Counseling Retreats receive a scientific evaluation of their relationship from the Gottman Institute through an online questionnaire and personalized observations assessment. This comprehensive relationship assessment allows me to pinpoint the areas in which you can achieve the greatest growth so your relationship can move toward a place of greater strength, reconnection, and hope for future and ongoing happiness.
In this beautiful North Georgia mountain setting, couples are able to leave distractions of home behind and come for three days of relationship therapy and connection with soothing Nature. You will spend a total of 21 hours with me directly and you will spend time practicing skills and exercises together on your own outside of our session time.
I provide couples with cabin rental options in the area of Blue Ridge, Georgia. Lodging arrangements are secured by couples and those fees along with meals are separate from my professional counseling fees.
9:00 am to 12:00 pm – Assessment (includes initial 90 minute intake session, individual one hour sessions with each person and online questionnaire)
12:00 – 1:30 – Lunch Break
1:30 – 2:30 – Review of Assessment Results
2:30 – 6:00 – Couples Counseling Session (breaks will be provided)
9:00 0 12:00 pm – Couples Counseling Session
12:00 – 1:30 Lunch Break
1:30 – 6:00 Couples Counseling Sessions (breaks will be provided)
The first day begins at 10:00 am with a three hour assessment which comprises of one hour all together, 45 minute
Morning dedicated to couple’s time together in Nature (hiking or other activities will be recommended)
1:30 – 6:00 Couples Counseling Sessions and Closure of Retreat
The fee for a 3 Day Marathon Couples Counseling Retreat is $4,795.
Lodging and meals is arranged by couples separately and typically amounts on average to $300/night.
I do accept credit cards and I can provide super-bill statements for your counseling coded for your insurance company in the case you wish to submit for out of network services.
If you would like to schedule a brief phone consultation please either call my office directly at 404-455-5805 or fill out my secure contact form and be sure to include your telephone number. I will be in touch within 24 hours if you are calling during the business week.